Upcoming talks: San Francisco and Springfield, MA

I’m going to be speaking and showing off some of my projects at a couple of neat conferences this fall. If you’re in the area, please come out and see me!

Arse Elektronika (Sept. 27-30) I’ll be unveiling my latest creation, The Hammer, on Thursday night at Prixxx Arse at The Armory and then giving a technical talk on Sunday (9/30) at 3pm at Noisebridge:

The Hammer: A Test-Your-Strength Game
This talk will introduce The Hammer, a test-your-strength game, including a live demonstration and a brief technical presentation. The Hammer is a silicone toy consisting of a bulb, instrumented with a force sensor, and a shaft, containing a row of LEDs. The bulb is inserted (either into a vagina or an anus) — when the person squeezes, the shaft illuminates.  The harder you squeeze, the brighter it gets.

Transcending Boundaries (Oct. 26-28) The final schedule hasn’t been released, but I will be co-presenting two talks and running a Birds of a Feather session.

Queering Role in BDSM Play
The idea of breaking binaries around gender and sexuality can be very empowering. In this session, we look at queering identity in the context of BDSM: “kinky vs. vanilla”, “dom vs. sub vs. switch”, and “top vs. bottom vs. switch” are all categories that we can reimagine. We’ll discuss the concept of a “rolequeer” identity and have a group brainstorming session about how to subvert norms and rewrite traditional BDSM roles in our play.

Changing the Playbook – Negotiating Asexual/Sexual Relationships
What does it mean for an asexual person and a sexual person to start a relationship? The presenters (one pansexual and one asexual) share some of their experiences and lessons learned, including understanding what (a)sexuality and physical intimacy mean for them; exploring the dynamics of physical, emotional, and romantic connections; and communicating desires and boundaries.

Toymaker Birds of a Feather
If you build, craft or hack any type of sex toys or BDSM equipment, come talk with fellow makers!  All people 18+ are welcome, regardless of your (a)sexuality/orientation/gender or what materials you work with (electronics, wood, metal, leather, software, etc). We want to facilitate face-to-face conversation because it’s such a great medium for showing off projects, sharing stories, and meeting new collaborators.

I hope to see some of you at these conferences!

Test Your Strength Game: Proof-of-Concept

At Arse Elektronika 2012 this fall, I’ll be presenting a Test Your Strength game!  This is the first electronics project I’ve ever done outside of a class: a silicone toy consisting of a bulb instrumented with a force sensor and a shaft containing a row of LEDs. The bulb is inserted either into a vagina, or potentially into an anus. When the person squeezes, the cock illuminates.  The harder you squeeze, the brighter it gets.

Because who doesn’t want a light-up cock?

The harder you squeeze, the more the toy will light up!

Continue reading

Three Tips for Giving Sex-Positive Advice to People Who Haven’t Had Sex and Want To

You’re at the wedding of a very conservative relative who hasn’t had partnered sex before. How can you give sex-positive advice?

Recently, I went to the wedding of one of my very religious cousins.  I wasn’t planning on talking about sex at all while I was there, but the wedding gave me the opportunity to be sex-positive in an environment that I had always experienced as very sex-negative.

Continue reading

Interview with Dr. X. Treme of X. Treme Orgasmatronics

A physics-based sex toy? FUCK YES! Meet Doctor X. Treme, who has a Ph.D.in applied physics and invents sex machines. He is the founder of  X. Treme Orgasmatronics, which will soon be launching its first product, the X1 Orgasmatron.

I was introduced to Doctor X. Treme by a friend who I met at Transcending Boundaries 2011.  Last weekend, I got to see his soon-to-be-launched X1 in person, and all I can say is that I think he’s on to something with this whole “science” thing. The X1 doesn’t feel like any other toy I’ve ever tried, and I can’t wait to buy one and collect some data myself. >:) I love to talk with other kinky geeks, so I appreciate this opportunity to pick Doctor X.’s brain and hear about his design process.

Continue reading

The Mind-Altering Substance You Might Be Bringing Into Your Bedroom

(or, Strap-On Sex + IRC FTW)

Note: This story contains graphic descriptions of my own sexual experiences. If reading about my sex life might be TMI for you, then you’ll want to skip this post.

Technology and pleasure can intersect in a variety of ways (especially when you have a very broad definition of technology. Many of us decide to add dildos, vibrators, rope or other toys to our play because we want new physical experiences.  What we don’t often consider is how using technology can change how you think about those physical experiences.  (Not to mention the fact that bringing a new piece of technology into the bedroom can be extremely funny.)

Continue reading