New blog post on the Passionate Produce blog: “So, what do you do for a living?” When I’m in my sex-positive bubble, this isn’t a difficult question to answer. Out in the Real World, though, if you’re older than me — especially if you’re an older man — I’m not likely to tell you the truth.
“If you could talk to your teenage self, what would you tell them about sex and sexuality?”
And so my letter begins:
I know how much time you’ve been spending with certain books lately — the ones with the steamy scenes that Mom and Dad would probably not approve of, if they knew. Oh, don’t worry — it’s okay with me. …
As I was working on creating my drag king persona (doing brainstorming and collage), I knew that I wanted to work up some kind of short performance piece. I didn’t have an audience in mind…until the sex/tech conference Arse Elektronika announced its theme for 2014: Trans*.*. Perfect for a little gender play!
What would I, as a guy, say to a bunch of other nerdy guys? See for yourself:
As “Adam James”, I performed an excerpt from Arthur Chu’s amazing essay, “Your Princess is in Another Castle: Misogyny, Entitlement, and Nerds.” I had to make a few cuts and rework a reference to Elliot Rodger at the beginning of the passage, but the rest is from the essay verbatim. (Any other deviations were my own mistakes while performing it.)
While I was originally interested in performing with a playboy, ladykiller persona, once I realized I had the opportunity to reach out to this very specific audience, I didn’t want to waste it. Chu’s essay has already reached a huge number of people, but I thought there might still be some nerdy guys at Arse Elektronika who weren’t familiar with it.
That’s how Adam James was born: “Adam” since he is my first guy character; “James” after my father and grandfather. He’s basically a dude version of me, a nerdy guy who’s tried to dress up a bit since he’s talking in front of an audience. Adam is talking about a subject he feels passionately about, since he’s grown up with geek culture (like I have).
Judging from the number of guys shifting awkwardly in their seats during my performance, I’d say I nailed it.
Are you a sex geek in the San Francisco Bay Area? Come out to Arse Elektronika, October 2-5!
The theme of the sex/tech conference Arse Elektronika in 2014 is Trans*.* .
I’ll be performing at the Prixxx Arse gala on Thursday night! I’ll also be giving a talk on Saturday afternoon with my collaborator Jimmie P. Rodgers, “Keeping It Up Under Pressure: A DIY Vacuum Rig for Body Casting.”
There will be tons of other great talks and performances, including many of my friends and sex-positive colleagues — the folks from Comingle (@comingle_io), The Mystery Box Show (@mysteryboxpdx), Griffin Boyce (@abditum), Tina Gong of HappyPlayTime (@happyplaytime), Maggie Mayhem (@MsMaggieMayhem), and Dr. X. Treme of Orgasmatronics Inc. (@Doctor_Xtreme , @Orgasmatronics), to name a few.
Go grab your ticket, and I look forward to seeing you there!
In a win for sex-positive makers and hackers everywhere, Dr. X. Treme and our friends over at Orgasmatronics Inc. have officially announced that their bionic dildo, the Ambrosia Vibe, will be open source!
I’m extremely proud to count Dr. X. Treme as a friend and colleague. When he asked to borrow one of my precious Hammer prototypes, I knew the result would be awesome:
I’m anxiously awaiting the arrival of my own Ambrosia Vibe! If you want to get in on this hot, open source, sex hacking — preorder the Ambrosia now.
My new sex-positive nonprofit needs a mission statement. Can I write one in < 120 characters?
In which my Drag King journey continues: I get face-to-face with masculinity and begin to see what my guy will look like. (Continued from Part 1.)
The Collage of Masculinity I created for my drag king class.
The video of my HOPE X talk, “The Sex Geek as Culture Hacker,” is now available!
“Being a nerd is not about what you love; it’s about how you love it.” Wil Wheaton’s words ring true for many self-identified geeks and nerds. But what happens if what you love is “love,” or even “lust”?
On July 19, 2014, I presented a talk entitled “The Sex Geek as Culture Hacker” at HOPE X. Below the video, you’ll find my slides, references, and lots of additional resources.
Latest update (July 29, 2014): I’ve posted video of the talk as well as some resources to help answer the questions that were asked during Q&A.
There’s a new post about the challenges of Naming Things over on the Passionate Produce blog. If you’ve got any ideas, either a name for my new nonprofit or a better name for Passionate Produce, I’d love to hear them! The Effing Foundation, anyone?