HOPE X: The Sex Geek as Culture Hacker

“Being a nerd is not about what you love; it’s about how you love it.” Wil Wheaton’s words ring true for many self-identified geeks and nerds. But what happens if what you love is “love,” or even “lust”?

On July 19, 2014, I presented a talk entitled “The Sex Geek as Culture Hacker” at HOPE X. Below the video, you’ll find my slides, references, and lots of additional resources.

Latest update (July 29, 2014): I’ve posted video of the talk as well as some resources to help answer the questions that were asked during Q&A.

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Open Source Dildo Generator is Awesome

We are living in the future.

As reported on MotherboardIkaros Kappler has created Dildo-Generator.com: a free, open-source tool that lets you design your own dildo. 

My first dildo created on dildo-generator.com in less than 5 minutes.

What’s neat about this tool is that once you’ve got a design that you like, it can generate a file which can be used to 3D print a mold for your toy.  Once you’ve got a mold, you can cast your toy in your preferred silicone:

I haven’t had time to go through the whole process, but I’m definitely looking forward to giving this a try!

“The Sex Geek as Culture Hacker” 7/19 in NYC

I’m attending the conference HOPE X in NYC for the first time this year, and I’ll be giving a talk called “The Sex Geek as Culture Hacker” on Saturday, 7/19 (details on Facebook and FetLife).

Kristen with the Fremont Troll

My recent visit to the Fremont Troll in Seattle.

Will I end up trolling an entire conference of mostly cisgender, heterosexual male hackers?  It could happen. You’ll just have to attend the talk and find out.

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Startup Stories: YKINMK (Your Kink Is Not MasterCard’s Kink)

"For Everything Else, There's MasterCard"...Except Really Kinky Stuff

With the latest news of financial institutions shutting down bank accounts of porn performers and crowdfunding platforms shutting down a porn performer’s medical fundraiser or refusing to pay out funds to porn performers,  it seems like a good time to share one of the discoveries I’ve made while trying to understand how payment processing works:

When it comes to porn and erotica, credit card companies have more say in what you can and can’t buy than the government does.

Check out the full story on the Passionate Produce blog.

Startup Stories: The Big Picture


While I’m treading water, trying to figure out how to keep pushing forward, one of my closest friends pointed out to me that I need to figure out what the heck my goals are.  Not just what Passionate Produce is going to do in the next six months or year, but what I want to spend the next twenty or thirty years of my life doing.  What do I want my life to be like? Why am I doing all this, anyways?

I thought a lot about that, and the results are posted on the Passionate Produce blog.

Princess Charming: Diverse princesses for diverse kids

I don’t generally feel comfortable asking people to give money to things, but I believe that it is really important for Princess Charming to exist in the world.


Kids need better princess role models, and lots of them, in stories that they can read and re-read as they get older. Josh Roby and Anna Kreidner have the whole thing planned out — each princess’s story is planned for a picture book, a bedtime book, and an early reader book. They are trying to build an enduring legacy of stories featuring princesses of color, princesses of different sizes, princesses who use swords and princesses who use words.

Princess Fayola is assigned male at birth and has to explain to her parents that yes, she IS a princess.  Princess Rowan happens to have a physical disability.  Princess Chandra happens to be about twice the size of any Disney princess I’ve ever seen (and I bet she’ll be kicking at least twice as much ass.)

If you have the resources to contribute to this campaign, please go do it.  If you have social media accounts, please spread the word.  Feel free to use the graphic I created (available as  480×567, 1195×1411, or SVG), or use the art from a Princess Charming update.

Go. Help bring these awesome princess stories to life so that kids — girls, boys, gender variant kids, trans* kids, ALL kids — can become more awesome people.