The most frequently asked questions I get from this blog are from folks who are interested in making their own toys out of silicone. Someday I hope to put together a more step-by-step guide which will cover the entire casting process, but at least for now I can tell you about the materials that I’ve used when making my own toys.
Before I get started, let me remind you that I am not a medical doctor. Please use common sense when selecting materials and designing toys. I’m presenting you with the best information that I have, but using a condom over any homemade toy is the safest course of action.
While the primary focus of this letter is people with penises, other people may find some of these ideas interesting or helpful.
To all of the people who have a penis (a bio-cock) and who enjoy using it with other people:
Greetings! I’m writing to you because I’d like to tell you about some of the things that I’ve been thinking about with respect to sex and penises. These aren’t things that are said very often in mainstream US culture.
Note: This is a deeply personal post about my struggle with trichotillomania. I’m writing this as a form of self-therapy. If reading about psychological issues around self-harm is triggering for you or TMI, you should skip this post.
Someone flagged my Hammer demonstration on YouTube as violating their community standards. While the video does not contain nudity and is not intended to be sexually explicit...apparently someone out there does believe that the Hammer is actually my penis.
Here's the original video, now re-posted:
Update 4/19/13: Reposted video to a new host. It should now stream correctly, and I won't have to worry about any more takedowns!
Since May 2012, I’ve been co-organizing a monthly meetup group called teasecraft-boston, an informal get-together of sex/kink-positive makers.
I now present to you teasecraft.com for anyone who wants to organize or attend similar meetups:
teasecraft meetup groups are for folks interested in making their own sex toys / BDSM equipment / other kinky and fun things. All are welcome, regardless of your (a)sexuality/orientation/gender or what materials you work with (electronics, wood, metal, leather, software, etc.).
This isn’t a company or a for-profit effort — we’re just offering a directory for people who want to start meetup groups. I was originally inspired by dorkbot, an un-organized set of meetup groups for folks interested in electronics and similarly geeky things. You can find dorkbot groups all over the world.
That’s what I would love to see for teasecraft, too. I want to be able to travel anywhere and share ideas with other creative, sex/kink-positive people!
If you’re in the greater Boston area, you should definitely consider joining teasecraft-boston. If not, consider organizing a meetup group yourself, or with friends, and then submit it so we can list it on teasecraft.com. It doesn’t cost anything to have a new teasecraft chapter listed — all we want to do is to encourage folks to start getting together, sharing their expertise, and inspiring one another.
Interested in building your own sex toys or kinky equipment? Here is a list of resources contributed by panelists and participants of “Home Depot in the Bedroom” at Arisia 2013.
Welcome, everyone who’s arrived from cracked.com! I was thrilled (and basically speechless) when I saw The Hammer listed as the #1 Geekiest Sex Toy. Thanks again for clicking over, and I hope you enjoy the rest of my blog (and my other very geeky, Doctor Who-themed toy).
I’m going to be speaking and giving a live demonstration of The Hammer at a couple of events coming up this month. If you’d like to bask in the glow of my rainbow cock in person (assuming the Demo Gods shower me with their favor), check out:
- Friday, January 11 at MIT: I’m going to be giving a 5-minute lightning talk at Ignite Craft Boston 3. It’s free, but you need to register for a ticket. Doors open at 6:30, talks start at 7pm.
- Sunday, January 20 at Arisia: I’m participating on a panel called “Home Depot in the Bedroom” at 11:30pm. You’ll have to register for Arisia (either for the whole conference or just for that day) to attend.
If you’re in the greater Boston area, you’ll almost always find me the 3rd Friday of the month at teasecraft
, a meetup for sex/kink-positive makers and hackers. It’s a great place for people to talk about project ideas, ask for advice, and show off what they’re working on.
I hope to see some of you soon!
Since starting this blog, I’ve had a few experiences in sex/kink-positive spaces which…well, felt awkward and kind of creepy. I think I’ve finally figured out why they felt creepy: the people who I was interacting with didn’t appreciate a fundamental truth about our shared space.
A Surprising Truth About Sex/Kink-Positive Spaces
The truth about sex/kink-positive spaces is that a lot of them are basically public. They may feel kind of private because you’re probably with a group of like-minded individuals who share a lot of common interests. They may feel kind of private…but they aren’t. It’s important to realize this distinction because it affects what counts as polite, acceptable behavior (as opposed to creepy behavior).
My favorite vibrator has a very special place in my heart: I always want to keep it close to me. I’m so happy it’s a part of my life. I love it despite its faults.
Fortunately, since we are talking about a sex toy and not a person, I can say that I’ve figured out how to fix it so that I don’t have to deal with any of its crap anymore. Enter sugru, a silicone-based “self-setting rubber.”
I’m finally ready to announce my new startup: Passionate Produce. Practically speaking, this means I have an idea and a splash page. (That’s all you really need to launch a startup, right?)